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When I wrote my first blog about dying, reader Barb Morin posted this comment…
A master of this subject [thinking about dying] —a self-described dealer in the “death trade” for over 20 years is Canada’s own Stephen Jenkinson. He has written a number of books – the last one called Come of Age and an earlier one entitled Die Wise.
He has a website called orphanwisdom.com and he is currently on tour through North America doing a presentation called “Nights of Grief and Mystery” with a musician named Greg Hoskins.
We recently attended this in Calgary—me and 5 family and friends who were not really looking forward to an uninterrupted 2.5 hours where entry was not allowed after the doors closed, with no intermission . About all I can say is that no one moved for the fastest 2.5 hours in my life and none was “unmoved’” by the content. My husband, who has a reputation for being able to sleep through ANYTHING shortly after it begins and wakes up as the clapping starts, was awake for the entire thing! He even said, “that was really good”!
I’d certainly encourage you to look at him as a resource. He has an NFB film about him and his work called Griefwalker which you can find on YouTube. He also teaches on occasion at Hollyhock Retreat Center on Cortes Island and teaches at his farm in Ontario.
As it happened, Stephen Jenkinson had not yet crossed my path—and I could hardly ignore such a compelling recommendation. Having listened to him on video, today I’m sharing an excellent interview that gives you a sense of what he’s about.<!–more–
If you don’t see the video, watch it here.
This is such a rich conversation, it’s impossible to summarize. Here are some things that leapt out at me…
- The palliative care system is technologically driven and it shapes our credo of end-of-life care, which is—If you can, you should. It’s a philosophy that has no upside.
- The “more-time” bargain we make to avoid the end of life has consequences we never imagined.
- We have messed with the idea of “your time to die.” And so, we don’t die when we are dying…
- Pneumonia used to be called “the old man’s friend.” Now it is treatable—and treated in the elderly—so we can’t even die from pneumonia anymore.
- Our description of a “good death” is dictated by the attributes of the death phobia of the culture…
- We should be asking, not what can we do about dying but what does dying ask of us?
- Your obligation as your body’s trustee is to learn its ways, including its limits and, later, its dying too…
- The Balinese tend to their dead in a morning ritual. The evidence of it is everywhere. I encountered this young woman on an early morning walk in Bali, holding a tray of beautifully prepared food that she was about to put out.
What caught your attention?
Stephen Jenkinson does not give us the same-old same-old. What caught your attention? Did you find things to think about?